The first thing to do when you stop is to rid yourself of all your friends linked with drinking or drug taking. At first there is a huge gap in your life. This void is an extremely lonely place to be. Nothing is the same and it can be frightening. Time was once filled with friends, family, work and play. These things disappeared during the dark days and now weigh heavily. You feel empty, hopeless and guilty and every familiar place seems to call you back to your habit.
People suffering from addiction have often lost all the most valuable things in their lives, the things that most people take for granted.
This empty place in your heart is similar to bereavement. You are lacking self esteem and confidence and think it is impossible for you to fit back in to mainstream living.
It is vital to begin to mix with sober people and people that will help you rebuild your life. When you start going to support groups like AA, NA, Road to Recovery, Apex, Osprey House and For the Right Reasons and others, you’ll start to build up a network of new contacts and new friends, people who you know will be there for you and will understand what you are going through.
Being trusted makes you feel worth something. It’s been a long time since anyone trusted you . It is very hard to remain patient. Recovery is a very slow process but knowing that there is somewhere to turn gives you strength to carry on and hope for the future.